Nature Abhors a Vacuum


First presented by the Greek physicist-philosopher Parmenides (510-450 BC) and then argued over for two-millennia by other famous names in history including Plato and Aristotle, the idea that empty spaces are unnatural has led directly to the creation of human advances such as atomic theory, the barometer, the steam engine and the science of thermodynamics to name but a few.

Indeed the idea has been around for quite sometime… So why have I made it the title of my post?  Well it would seem that lately, I have become a victim of this famous postulate, albeit in a slightly different sense of the meaning:

The day after I finished de-cluttering my home, it literally looked like an advertisement for a domestic goddess magazine (yes even inside the drawers and cupboards!)  So what did the universe throw at me? Several car loads of stuff, generously gifted to us by a well-meaning Father-in-law after the passing of my Mother-in-law.  Admittedly, I did take multiple bags off to the op-shop, but we’ve still ended up with quite a lot of items that I do not have places for, and by the law of universal attraction they are greedily gathering more clutter.  My new motto of ‘a place for everything, everything in it’s place’ has encountered some serious universal resistance – to quote many others and my post The Ins and Outs of ‘Stuff’,

“space wants to be filled”.

Hmmmm, looking around, maybe my title should have been ‘The Chaos Theory‘… must be time for another de-clutter!


Time of Your Life

There are times in your life when you feel you have, ‘got it together’…

You’re eating well and sleeping well.

Your husband/partner/spouse/significant other is happy.

The kids are happy.

YOU are happy.

You don’t feel ashamed to invite people over because you’re staying on top of the housework and your home doesn’t look like a 1980’s horror movie – ‘The Nightmare on [insert street name here]’

…enjoy this thought for a while…

And then there are those times when you sit bleary eyed on the couch eating leftover chocolate ganache from a toddler spoon (because there are no other clean spoons left), and you think to yourself (as you look around at your 1980’s horror movie living room), “how did this happen?”


But it doesn’t really matter, does it.

What matters, is what you choose to do now.

I find the great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving – Oliver Wendell Holmes

Life can feel overwhelming sometimes and insurmountable tasks can seem impossible, but as long as you’re still moving in the right direction, one small step at a time, then you’re doing ok.

The time to take that first step is NOW! Stop thinking and



Life is ironic.

It takes sadness to know what happiness is,

Noise to appreciate silence,

And absence to value presence.

Yes, life is definitely ironic, but the unknown author who wrote this well-known quote could just as easily be eluding to the Yin-Yang theory  – opposing, yet complementary energies, interdependent on each other.

At the macro level—the largest scale imaginable—all things are always balancing and rebalancing into a state of perfect harmony.

It is difficult to understand or even believe this, when our own little lives often feel so unbalanced, and no matter what we do, when we choose to do one thing, there is something else that we are NOT doing.

Ironically, by pursuing my passion for writing and creating this blog, I have unintentionally unbalanced other areas of my life… is it even possible to do it all?

Marriage, kids, work, home, social life, health & fitness, hobbies,

I do believe it is.

Balance is NOT something you find, it is something you CREATE

Jana Kingsford


The Ins and Outs of ‘Stuff’

Stuff, stuff everywhere.

Stuff, stuff in my hair.

On the floor and ‘neath the bed,

Cluttering up inside my head!

It’s very hard to maintain a balanced mind when the environment around you is cluttered and chaotic.  (It is also rather difficult when you have one or more small persons requiring your attention every 0.7 seconds which is why it’s taken me 20 mins to write 75 words!)

This post is for those who, like me, may have experienced serious feelings of shame and embarrassment when unexpected visitors have called round and witnessed the bomb site of their daily lives in all its squalid glory.  Feelings that – for reasons like extreme sleep deprivation, scrambled brain syndrome and a complete imbalance of giving everything they are and have to tiny little tantruming dictators – they are unable to hide in the cupboard or stuff in the garage unless they have 24hrs advanced notice… and on THOSE occasions when they ARE able to present the television ‘home they prepared earlier’ and consequently give the impression that their baseline living conditions are semi-civilised instead of post apocalyptic B grade movie, they casually imply (as they apologise for the mess) that they haven’t just spent the last day, down to the minute, doing that kind of whirlwind cleaning that results in knickers in the pot drawer and boxes of unidentifiable crap shoved into the one room with the door that is always shut… and if said guests insist on viewing said room, they then sheepishly declare that, “we’re still unpacking” – a phrase which although useful, does lose some credibility after three or more years…

Gretchen Rubin (author of The Happiness Project and Happier at Home) writes,

if you can’t find something, clean up.

I don’t know how many times I have heard these words echo in my head as I’ve scrabbled around through disorganised debris trying to find things like a lost shoe, sellotape dispenser or nail clippers.  In fact, I have heard these words so many times that I have now added this valuable insight of simple logic to my ‘Lessons of Adulthood‘.

Inspiration is a marvellous thing, and it wasn’t until after reading Happier at Home that I truly climbed on board the decluttering bandwagon.   I felt like I’d been drowning in the tsunami of stuff that comes with having babies and children and when every flat surface was piled high with precarious possessions and the floor was a seething mass of miscellaneous belongings, it didn’t take a genius to see how our stuff vs space scales had become seriously skewed (alliteration, oh how I love you )

My efforts, while heroic at the time (multiple times actually), were no match for the constant onslaught of my two small ‘stuff transporters’ (I’m sure that every parent can relate to this – the constant flow of random objects from one place to another) and it is only in the last six weeks (since my daughter has started school) that I feel I have regained the time, space and energy needed to tackle such a monumental task.  So my son and I have been going through the house room by room, shelf by shelf, drawer by drawer doing the serious, deep cleaning and decluttering that takes a long time to do, especially when you have a toddler helping…

My mission for the stuff that survived this process? Benjamin Franklin summed it up nicely:

a place for everything, everything in its place.

After several skip bins (ok I exaggerate, but not much) and trips to various opshops, I would say that we are about 75% of the way through.  The biggest difference between our current quest to bring balance to our belongings and all previous attempts, is that this time, whatever spaces we sort out have to be maintained and tidy before we can move onto the next area – so instead of reaching the end, only to begin again (to reference other such behemoth jobs like the painting of the Golden Gate Bridge), we might actually accomplish our goal of a fully functional and practical living space where there is a place for everything and where everything, eventually, gets put back in its place!

But how do you maintain such areas you might ask?  As other parents will understand, it only takes a few hours for children to transform a decluttered, tranquil space into Armageddon…  We’ve been trialing a 5-15 minute BEFORE dinner clean up of toys, books and clothes 5-6 nights of the week and we started off slowly, adding to our routine as required.   Our decluttering began in darling son’s room, so initially clean up only involved that one room. Then gradually, as we’ve sorted out more areas we’ve included those in our clean up too – so instead of a wild whirlwind, it has quickly become a breeze to maintain a semi-civilised living environment.  I’ve even started inviting people around again!!

In summary, we’ve got the outflow of stuff well under way – the problem is now the inflow.  Space WANTS to be filled…

It’s a bit like this blog really, so much space – I’m interested (as I hope you are) to see what’s going to fill it next!

Lessons of Adulthood

So here I am… day 2 of my quest for balance, blogging journey (try saying that out loud five times fast!) Today’s e-mail everyday inspiration assignment? Write a list of the things I’ve learned.

Here goes.

In no particular order,

My Lessons of Adulthood:

  1. Everything in Balance (which if you read my introductory post, ‘Hello World‘ you will already know!)

  2. Find something you’re passionate about.

  3. When something bad happens, take a deep breath (after your intial swearing of course!) and then use the phrase, “at least…” It always helps to remember that things could be worse!

  4. Music is a language but also a universal mood changer (Freddy Mercury you haven’t failed me yet!)

  5. When you have children, it’s inevitable that your brain will turn to scrambled eggs. Don’t worry though, at least some of it will eventually come right again! (note the casual use of no. 3 thrown in here…)

  6. It takes five positive things to balance out one negative.

  7. Whatever it is, THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

  8. When you can, go with the flow – if you get the urge to de-clutter make the most of it!  If you want to lie on the couch and watch a rom-com (or B-grade sci-fi) eating chips and icecream then go for it! (I do realise that in reality this is not always possible, in which case refer to no. 4)

  9. Always say thank you. Please is good also.

  10. Everyone likes to be appreciated.

  11. Being kind is actually a selfish act because it makes you feel awesome

  12. If you can’t find something, tidy up (Thanks to Gretchen Rubin, author of ‘The Happiness Project’ for this one!)

  13. Exercise (including consensual sex) will boost your mood and energy 99.9% of the time – I have not yet learned the secret to getting started.

  14. A cardboard box really is the best toy EVER.

  15. No matter how far you tip the scales in ANY situation, you can ALWAYS balance them out again.  Everything in balance.  Yes I know I already said this one, but it’s just so damned important it needs a second mention.

That’s all I can think of off the top of my head, and no doubt one of my darling children will wake up in the next few hours so I’d better be off to bed.  I’d love to hear what your ‘lessons of adulthood’ are!

Hello World!

My name is Laura    

I’m a daughter, a sister, a friend, a wife, the mother of two wonderful children and a lover of language.  After living my wobbly life for a little over three decades, I have finally learned what I believe is the most important lesson of adulthood… “everything in balance”.

That’s it.

It may seem like simple common sense, but this fantastical realisation has been the most important, the most crucial, the most defining epiphany I have ever had!!!  It has allowed me to experience a new level of freedom, without guilt, which I have deprived myself of for far too many years.

So why have I started on this blogging journey?

Well, like so many other things in life, it’s definitely easier said than done!

So here I am, weighing in at this tipping point on the scales of my life, in the hope that I may gain some shared enlightenment on my quest for balance…